My name is Nancy Parmar. On July 26th, 2013, I was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer, Acute Myeloid Leukemia. This type of leukemia has no cure and relies heavily on the use experimental drug trials. For about a month and a half, I was in denial and even fell into depression many times. Scared to open up and be treated differently from who I was before, I told many people I was just “sick” and had a “long road to recovery.” Being diagnosed with cancer is devastating and life altering for anyone. I have been blessed by God’s grace with a wonderful family and amazing friends who have showered me with infinite love and confidence. I could never be more grateful for their support during these trying times. It is with their support along with meeting cancer survivors such as, Elona Karafin, who have helped me accept myself. The type of AML I have is due to a FLT3+ and MML mutation. According to the doctors, in a matter of a week, my genes had mutated into this rare condition. It is not hereditary as nobody in my family has ever had history of such a cancer. This sounds all too scientific but it helps to understand why I’m asking for your help. Chemotherapies and trial oral pills may make my cell counts lower but if these mutations are not signaled to turn off with these trial drugs, the cancer continues to grow. Thankfully, insurance has covered the costs of the necessary medications I required so far. The only way to overcome this disease for good is to undergo a bone marrow transplant. The search alone, ranges from $10,000 to $60,000 and only grants cover it. However, grants rarely cover even half the cost. Then comes the cost for the actual transplant, which depends on who the donor is and where the match is coming from. Unfortunately, my sister was not a match and my parents are only half matches. I would need umbilical cord blood to compensate for the half matches and even then that would be the second best option. We are looking for a 10/10 antigen match, a search that hasn’t been very successful, so I won’t relapse and have to go through another transplant. I ask sincerely and from the bottom of my heart to help me and my family, who has been by my side day and night, to raise enough money for (ONLY) my bone marrow search, as it is costly enough. Ever since I have been diagnosed, my mom, especially, who has not gone back to work, has not left my side once. My dad who has been disabled from a car accident in March, comes everyday regardless of his own pain with a ride from my cousin, Prashant. My sister supports our household as she works and goes to school and last but especially not the least, my cousin Angel who stays over everyday to help me do everyday things I can no longer do regardless of her school schedule and my cousin Sonia who stays over to help during the weekends. These people have given up their every day or weekday to help me see another day and together we ask for your help because we cannot do it alone. Donations aren’t the only way you can help. Blood and platelet donations are also a way to help me and many others here at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Simply sharing or liking this page is a great way to show your support for me. Signing up at a bone marrow registry can increase the chances for me as well as others in need of bone marrow matches. I can cer-vive this and so can they. Thank you very much. Without EACH AND EVERY SINGLE ONE of you, this can not be possible so I urge you to help Checkmate, Cancer and I reach our goal. Let’s save lives together.

52 Responses to “Letter from Nancy”

  1. Alina Draganchyuk
    October 1, 2013 at 8:27 am #

    Nancy you are amazing for writing this, for being as strong as you are, and for being an inspiration to everyone; I read this about 30 times already and I tear up every single time. I love you! stay strong, fighter!

  2. Jiawen Liang
    October 1, 2013 at 10:03 am #

    Nancy, I love you very much. This letter has touched my heart more and more each time I read it. STAY STRONG!

  3. Amanda Sperato
    October 1, 2013 at 7:21 am #

    You are one of the greatest people I’ve ever known. You will fight this, you are a warrior! I love you!

  4. Felipe martinez
    October 1, 2013 at 8:20 am #

    Be strong nancy! Everyone from the class of 2011 is supporting and praying for you and God willingly you will win your fight against cancer.

  5. Natasha Karafin
    October 1, 2013 at 9:30 am #

    Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer. Stay strong and never give up!

    With love,

    Elona’s mom

  6. Amanda DiPietro
    October 1, 2013 at 9:43 am #

    Nancy you’re so strong! Don’t worry all bad things must come to an end, and it will. Love you my Princess Warrior. <3

  7. maria
    October 1, 2013 at 10:09 am #

    Please, email me and let me know what I can do to test and see if i’m a match for you. I really hope you feel better.

  8. Carla Hachicho
    October 1, 2013 at 11:16 am #

    Hearing your story makes me feel very humble. Stay strong Nancy, we are all here to support♥♥

  9. Sidra Ali
    October 1, 2013 at 11:25 am #

    I’m gonna signal boost this movement. Stay strong, Nancy! We all love you dearly and will try our best to help you however we can!

  10. Reem Beydoun
    October 1, 2013 at 11:25 am #

    Nancy you are simply amazing! Such a strong person<3 you will FIGHT THIS

  11. Natasha Karafin
    October 1, 2013 at 11:31 am #

    Nancy,
    Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer. Stay strong!

    Elona’s mom

  12. Gina Abdulahad
    October 1, 2013 at 11:34 am #

    A beautiful story written by a beautiful gril <3 I love you so much best friend, stay strong

    • Ashley Tirado
      October 1, 2013 at 6:08 pm #

      How can I help!?!?!?

  13. Gina Abdulahad
    October 1, 2013 at 11:36 am #

    A beautiful story written by a beautiful girl<3 I love you so much best friend, stay strong

  14. Fernanda Atriz
    October 1, 2013 at 11:59 am #

    To this day, I cannot believe that you’re going through this but I know that you’re one of the strongest individuals I’ve ever encounter and you’ll make it! I love you so much. Stay strong, stay gold, and stay positive! You’ve always been a warrior inside <3.

  15. Cathy Ferrell
    October 1, 2013 at 12:04 pm #

    Hi Nancy,
    I want to tell you that my prayers are with you and I know you through Sonia. I try to ask everyday how are you doing. Hang in there and keep smiling because everyone else is doing it for you. God does answer prayers and I am from NC and I promise you that your name is going to be put on every prayer list that I can get it on. So don’t give up please don’t ever give up.
    My prayers are with you
    Cathy

  16. Sandra
    October 1, 2013 at 12:37 pm #

    Hi Nancy. I don’t think we know each other personally or even as acquaintances. But I know of your current status and have heard of you through my parents, Cornelius and Shillah Christy.
    Just want to tell you that you are in my prayers. Jesus Christ is the rock and strong fortress that’s holding you and will continue to uplift you in His care. I occasionally attend a church in NJ and during one of the services, the pastor conducted a healing service. Even though I don’t “know” you, I claimed your name and one other person’s name in my prayers for miraculous healing. Please stay strong and I applaud you for your perseverance and determination to fight this illness. Nothing is impossible for Jesus Christ.
    With prayer
    Sandra Allidina

  17. Samira Afifi
    October 1, 2013 at 12:58 pm #

    Nanabear, you are the strongest person I know and I’m sure all of your friends would say the same. We’ve all got your back and will continue to support you during this battle!

    #Weloveyounancy
    #TeamNancy

  18. Diana Lydia
    October 1, 2013 at 3:07 pm #

    You’re a brat but you’re my brat. Love you Nancy Pants. Your favorite sister. Your only sister

  19. Crystal and Emily Parmar
    October 1, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    Hi Nancy your a fighter you will fight this and you will be stronger as ever We love you with all our heart :) xoxoxo

  20. Robin and Melissa Parmar
    October 1, 2013 at 5:37 pm #

    Hi Nancy we love you and we will always be there for you Our prayers are with you I know you fight this you are a strong person. :) xoxxoxo

  21. Crystal and Emily Parmar
    October 1, 2013 at 5:47 pm #

    Hi Nancy you are a fighter ,fighters never give up you are going to be stronger than ever!!!!
    WE LOVE YOU WITH ALL OUR HEARTS xoxoxoxo

  22. Muntaha Mowla
    October 1, 2013 at 7:12 pm #

    Stay strong! My prayers are with you <3

  23. Keshia Megie
    October 1, 2013 at 8:09 pm #

    Nancy,

    Your story is more than touching. I am thinking of you each and every day. I hope that my positive energy reaches you.

    I am so happy that I have the pleasure of knowing you. You are a great soul and I will do all I can to help.

    <3

  24. Graham Ross
    October 1, 2013 at 8:50 pm #

    Hi Nancy, so sorry to hear about this terrible news. My prayers are with you. Stay strong, don’t lose hope, you can beat the odds. Might take some time though.

  25. Suhasini Kunjravia
    October 1, 2013 at 8:53 pm #

    God Bless You. Praying for you. You are a very strong willed person, you are a fighter. Love, Suhasini kunjravia

  26. Lauren DiPietro
    October 1, 2013 at 9:17 pm #

    Love you Nancy! You are so strong and absolutely wonderful! you can beat this, and we are all here for you! stay strong, and stay positive! :) <3

  27. Preeti Kalawadia
    October 2, 2013 at 1:55 am #

    Hello Nancy,

    I’m your mom’s cousin’s daughter from LA [Sonia’s cousin].
    Though we never got a chance to meet each other I wanted you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers..God Bless you Dear

    Please let me know if I can do anything to help.

    My husband and I are already part of the Marrow registry.

    God Bless you,

    Preeti

  28. Antonio Cuadrado
    October 2, 2013 at 2:06 am #

    I don’t know you personally, and I have never met you, but I wanted to say that I am so sorry that you are going through all of these things. From what I have read you sound like you are a very nice person and you have a lot of people who love and care for you. I just wanted to give you my best wishes and I hope that things turn for the best. Stay strong and know that people both in your circle and out are rooting for you!!!!

  29. Sarah ElSayed
    October 2, 2013 at 2:12 am #

    i don’t know you, but i’m here fighting with you. you go girl!

  30. Camille DiPietro Lembo
    October 2, 2013 at 11:23 am #

    Nancy, stay strong and hopeful and good things will happen. I will keep you in my prayers.

  31. Zelaina Rodriguez
    October 2, 2013 at 1:09 pm #

    Stay strong Nancy. You have a lot of people supporting! I couldn’t believe it when I heard your story. High school was forever and a day ago, but I remember all those goodtimes we had in class. Your a good person Nancy and you’ll get through this <3

  32. Diana Rivera
    October 2, 2013 at 7:05 pm #

    Nancy, even though I don’t know you personally, I heard your story through Brooklyn College, which I currently attend, and your story touched my heart very much. I had a cousin who was diagnosed with leukemia and it’s a tough battle but know that there are many generous people out there who are willing to help and support you. You just have to keep staying STRONG, never losing your FAITH. Always keep your perseverance and determination to fight this illness because with God’s GRACE anything is possible.
    My prayers are with you.

  33. Dr. Noto
    October 2, 2013 at 8:36 pm #

    Nancy,
    All of us at the office are thinking of you and praying for you. Please let us know if there is anything that we can do; we would like to put up notices for blood donation and or your marrow screening drive in the waiting room (if it is ok with you of course) to try to get the word out about your fight. If you have a flyer and you feel comfortable with us putting it up then just say the word and consider it done. You are a part of our little dental family so we want to do our part.
    In the meantime, just focus on getting better. It isn’t easy, but you are in the right place and you can do it.
    Hang in there!

    • Gina Abdulahad
      October 11, 2013 at 12:31 am #

      Hello Dr.Noto, this is Gina, Nancy’s friend. If you can give me your email or even email me at ginaahad@hotmail.com then I would glady send you the flyer for the bone marrow drive. Thank you

  34. Eva Palmer
    October 2, 2013 at 8:46 pm #

    Hi Nancy, You are in our prayers every single day and likewise other folks are praying for you. Prayer turns the stumbling blocks into building blocks. I applaud your courage. You have exceptional courage with enduring power to cope each day at a time and your strength is from the Lord and your parents on your side. Nothing is impossible with God. Jesus is our healer. Here is a quote to inspire you…. Courage is the capacity to confront what can be imagined. Stay Strong…..Eva Aunty

  35. Sonia Pravasi
    October 2, 2013 at 9:22 pm #

    Nancypants!!! You are the bravest person I have known. Hang in there. We all are with you….. I love you and we will get through this <3

  36. Tiffany Tsui
    October 2, 2013 at 11:26 pm #

    Nancy,

    You’re really strong. Keep fighting and win!

  37. Paul Gordon
    October 3, 2013 at 12:16 am #

    HEY NANCY , YOUR SOO BEAUTIFUL AND YOUR SMILE IS AMAZING BE ENCOURAGE I BELIEVE EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE AND IF YOU WANT ME TO SING TO YOU JUST SAY THE WORD AND IM THER :), YOUR SUCH AN AWESOME PERSON AND U DESERVE ALL OF THE LOVE AND SUPPORT, YOUR IN MY PRAYERS

    -Paul :)

  38. Vimla Oliver Christian.
    October 3, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    Dear Nancy,
    you truely are a warrior beta, read your story and we are proud of you, you probably know us but your dad and mom grew up with my husband Oliver from Anand,my name is Vimla. Since we heard you are ill we have been praying for you and made a prayer request in church for you. I will post your story @ my work and it will touch people’s heart, Trust in our God and He answers our prayers, stay strong, you will win this fight, we will do all we can to help.You have loving,strong,devoted and close family and they are also in our prayers. God bless you beta.

  39. Nina Nadvornaya
    October 3, 2013 at 5:12 am #

    I may not know you personally, but I heard about your ordeal through mutual friends and I just want to say how beautiful and inspiring you are. I’m wishing you the absolute best and the speediest of all recoveries! You have an amazing support system behind you, so stay strong and keep fighting! :)

  40. Moshe Nathan
    October 3, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    First of all, Nancy I wish you a speedy and full recovery.
    I organized several bone marrow drives over the last few years and may be able to help.
    Please feel free to contact me at bcswabsforkids@gmail.com and I will be happy to help anyway I can.
    Best,
    Moshe

  41. Annie Zhao
    October 3, 2013 at 10:29 pm #

    Hi Nancy, It’s Annie I don’t know if you remember me it’s been such a long time. I just want to tell you to stay strong. Miracles happens and we’re all keeping you in our thoughts. I live in brooklyn also, though I’m a couple hours away at Bing right now, but I plan to go back home Oct. 26th for my moms birthday. I want to get tested to see if i could be a match for you and join the registry. It’s a long shot but I want to do what I can. Let me know if I can help in anyway, please please don’t give up. I believe that a lot of healing is mental and with a positive attitude, you can conquer anything.

  42. Christine
    October 4, 2013 at 12:31 am #

    I met Nancy in the 5th grade when I transferred to a new school. I was very shy and didn’t meet or had much friends, but I do remember Nancy as being one of them. I always remembered her as very pretty and smart. We went to the same JHS but we didn’t talk much anymore. I can’t believe it’s been years since I’ve last seen her. I also can’t believe something like this happened to such a bright and friendly person. I wish you the best Nancy!

  43. Ryan Castelino
    October 4, 2013 at 12:45 pm #

    Hi Nancy..

    You will bounce back soon… God bless You always..

  44. Joyce Christian
    October 4, 2013 at 6:09 pm #

    Nancy, stay stronger. We are all praying for you . You are a fighter and you will win

  45. Niky Wu
    October 5, 2013 at 5:20 pm #

    Reading this have touched my heart so much! Stay strong beautiful, you will get through this <3

  46. Deborah
    October 6, 2013 at 12:29 am #

    Dear Nancy,
    You are incredibly brave and strong. Stay strong! hugs and support (((())))))

  47. Kathy Guart
    October 9, 2013 at 3:17 am #

    Hi nancy,
    I remembered your beautiful smile. God be with you forever . We are praying for you.

  48. Batsheva
    October 10, 2013 at 12:59 am #

    Nancy I still remember your bright smile in chem class- you have such a happy positive caring personality. We are all rooting for you! Feel better soon!!!

  49. Jennifer Taylor
    October 17, 2013 at 7:29 pm #

    Nancy, I also had AML. I was diagnosed on september 28, 2010 at the age of 27. I had several rounds of intense chemo and had a bone marrow transplant on February 2, 2011. My donor is from Germany. I try to spread awareness of the donor registry often & will share your story in hopes of getting more people to sign up. I will pray for you & your family, that a match is found for you so you can have the transplant. I wish you all the best & stay strong, you can beat this! It will not be easy but you can do it! You have a great support system & very many people praying for you!

  50. Ivette
    October 18, 2013 at 10:18 am #

    Nancy, you are amazing. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

    To Nancy’s friends and family: You guys are so awesome for keeping her spirits lifted and for showing her such true love.

    Is there a way that I can check to see if I am a match for Nancy? I am not in New York state but if you tell me how I can go about TODAY and get checked. Please advise via email.

Leave a Reply to Natasha Karafin

Name (required)

Email (will not be published) (required)

Website